When you first get married, you have such a romantic view of your life together, but after a few years when the honeymoon period is over, you can find yourself questioning whether your partner still loves and gets you.
Have you ever read The Five Languages of Love? It is an interesting book, and one that can help you better understand your partner and other important relationships in your life.
What are the five languages?
- Affirmation – Giving words of encouragement
- Acts of Service – Doing something kind or thoughtful for the other person.
- Affection – Giving a hug, a quick kiss.
- Quality of time – spending time with the person, enjoying their company.
- Gifts – Buying something that the other person would love
I know in my own relationships this has been helpful, because if you measure a person’s love of you by your own language, they may be lacking in your eyes when in fact they are actually talking in a foreign tongue – one of the other languages of love.
For example, you demonstrate your love with affection and want to spend time with your partner, while he, on the other hand isn’t that demonstrative and doesn’t need to be with you 24/7. His way of showing how he feels is more practical – fixing your computer for example or buying thoughtful gifts. Does that mean one loves more than the other? Not necessarily. It is more that you show your love differently.
Once you realize this it takes the pressure of both parties in the relationship; it reduces expectations and the one common denominator is each language involves giving. So ask yourself, what’s our languages of love?