When I think about overall fitness, having a healthy lifestyle and living a balanced life, there are four main “Life Quadrants” that I believe need to be in balance. They are; Physical, Mental, Behavioral (Social/Emotional) and Spiritual. Let’s quickly define these 4 areas. Physical fitness refers to things that your physical body needs for survival, maintenance and growth. Mental wellness is about your mind and learning. Spiritual wellness covers studies and practises in relation to philosophy and religion. While emotional fitness is all about how we cope with the social and emotional impact we have on our mind and bodies.
WIKI BEST ANSWERS states:
“Emotional fitness is the ability to deal with life’s challenges in a positive way. It means taking control over your choices and actions, having the inner strength to be who you want to be. Becoming emotionally fit is important, because it enables you to live at peace with yourself and those around you. By becoming emotionally fit, you will be able to resolve conflicts faster and avoid the sand traps of self-condemnation, anger, and resentment.”
Clearly there is a direct relationship with our emotional fitness and how we behave in relationships. Also, our physical and mental fitness is negatively impacted, if we are not able to cope with emotional challenges and strain such as stress, anxiety and tension. We all know that stress has many physical and mental negative impacts to our overall health such as lack of sleep, irritability, feeling frustrated, feeling restless, difficulty concentrating, negative self-talk, eating disorders and emotional outbursts.
Signs of healthy “emotional fitness”
• Face challenges head on
• Manage and deal with stress
• Solve problems independently
• Possess and carry a confident attitude
• Have good self-esteem
• Control thoughts and emotions in a positive way
• Are not easily influenced or held back to negative emotions and situations
Signs of poor “emotional fitness”
• Difficulty coping with emotions and daily life challenges
• Poor self-esteem & negative self-talk
• Feeling overwhelmed with emotions
• Unable to concentrate or focus
We all know life is full of ups and downs. This is very true in your personal relationships. Your feelings greatly determine how you react to people and situations. When people are “in love” or overcome with “strong emotions”, often times they make decisions based on feelings. When you lack in emotional fitness, you will make choices based on emotions, over common sense. Behavior is often learned and taught. You can reverse and change your thoughts through positive habits and positive affirmations.
You CAN improve your emotional fitness by conditioning your mind with healthy & positive thoughts. Much like you would feed your body with the best foods and nutrients. Emotional conditioning is essential, and you can hire a coach to help you improve on this part of your life. Consider hiring a Dating, Relationship or Life Coach if you need help with emotional fitness & dealing with relationships. Hiring a professional matchmaking service, can help weed out those who are not emotionally ready for a healthy relationship; saving you the emotional stress and potential negative effects of dealing with someone who isn’t ready.
REMEMBER that YOU have the ability to control your thoughts! You are what you think about most, so keep your mind free of negativity and full of as many positive and happy thoughts as you can.
Carmelia Ray <http://www.carmeliaray.com/>
Dating & Matchmaking Expert, Author & Speaker
Strategic Business Consultant