Hey guys, I know that meeting all the crazy demands of your partner and keeping your woman happy can feel like a chore at times. And for those of you who are doing a great job, keep it up and do share your secrets! I’ve been in quite a few long-term relationships and have spoken with many ladies who’ve shared their “wish list’ with me about what they wish their man could be doing better or do more of. I want to share some relationship advice for men that will hopefully allow you to take a look at your own relationship habits and see where you can improve or stay on top of. These relationship tips will help you maintain a loving, healthy, fun and sexually satisfying relationship with your partner.
Don’t stop dating her.
Most early stage relationships which is often called the “honey moon phase” is deemed that for a reason. This is the time where most guys are still focused on impressing their woman and winning her over. A lot of women have told me their disappointment when all of a sudden they stop getting surprises; they haven’t seen flowers or chocolates (not even on special occasions) in years and the last time they went on a date was before the kids were born. Guys do yourself a favor and take your lady out on a date. It’s important you take time to really focus on your partner and give yourselves some much needed one on one time. Your partner should not have to compete with your work schedule or social media status updates to spend some time with you. Planning the night out, taking care of all the arrangements and making sure she’s having a great time will be greatly appreciated and more than likely, rewarded at the end of the evening.
Compliments are appreciated.
Saying the words “I love you” can seem a little routine if it’s something you say regularly out of habit. It has even less of an impact when the words aren’t backed up with proof or evidence of this so called “love” you keep talking about. It’s like giving her a high five as you pass each other from bedroom to bathroom. The type of compliments I’m referring to are the genuine unexpected and much appreciated compliments. They kind where you really notice her and admire the special way she did her hair that day or how the color of her dress really brings out her eyes. You might also compliment the way she makes you feel and the special way she makes her signature French toast in the morning. We love unexpected compliments that flatter our looks and our skills as women. We want to know that you appreciate the time we take to make things special for you and to look our best when we do make the effort. YOU: “Don’t even ask baby, because you look PERFECT in those pants. The only thing that would make you look better if they were laying on the bed.” 😀
Ask how you can help.
When you ask your woman if there’s anything that you can do to help her, you may get a confused and surprised look on her face that reads, “Did I just hear those words come out of his mouth?” We all live busy lives and each person in the relationship already has their roles and responsibilities. Checking in with your partner to see if there’s any can way you can help is a huge bonus and a great way to remind her that you’ve got her back. Now this relationship tip for men is only meant to be used if you are truly willing to help her when she gives you the laundry list of things you can help her with. Even if you can knock one or two things off that list, it will be greatly appreciated.
Stay healthy and manage your personal hygiene.
Some of you guys think you’re the only ones who are interested in sex and need to be visually stimulated by your partner. I’m sorry guys, but looks and good grooming do matter to your partners. Sporting your droopy underwear and dirty socks with holes in them are a huge turn-off. Not paying attention to your nose, ear, and hair in all the wrong places will lead to less sex. I’ve had many ladies admit to me the reason they’re no longer “into sex” is they’ve lost attraction to their partner for these very reasons. The real reason they are turned off is that if YOU can accept yourself as a sloppy, unkempt guy it lowers her opinion of you. Your wife should never have to tell you to brush your teeth (put the toilet seat down-please) or take a shower when your man odor is just too much to handle. Eating well and taking care of your overall health is an attractive quality and makes a big difference for sexual attraction.
So there you have some relationship advice for men shared with me through my own personal experiences and that of so many women in long-term relationships. If you’re curious about how well matched you are with your partner you should take the Relationship Test which will be available through Instant Chemistry by May 1st, 2014. I’d love to hear your secrets to being the best man you can be in a relationship and what the ladies really appreciate from their special guy.