Every fall I vow that I am not going to turn myself into the hamster on the treadmill. You know, the one who can’t get off and is just spinning her wheels. And within days, I am usually back on the fast lane, forgetting all my promises to myself.
Well, not this year. But it was a close shave. During the summer months, when all was calm – well nearly calm, I have a puppy remember, I was lulled into agreeing to host a big fundraiser for one of my favourite charities.
But as the weeks went by, nothing was falling into place. I didn’t hear back from the charity. A group that I thought would want to partner with me, wasn’t interested, meantime I was on the line for a lot of tickets, costs, and putting down a non-refundable deposit. The stars were not aligning and after much deliberation, I decided not to do it.
This is a new experience for me – saying “no” but you know what, it sure feels good. The more I thought about the fundraiser, the more stressed out I was becoming. I have a heavy workload already, why was I taking on more? And for once, I listened to my gut.
When I make a commitment, I honour it, so I felt I was letting my speaker down, but she was so gracious, renewing my faith that people can be accepting when you make a decision that impacts them, and that in saying “no” I was respecting myself.
Good lesson to learn. Now I just have to practice.
by Anne Day