“Get with the process!”
When was the last time you were in shape? Was it after you did a competition or had a big event like a wedding providing the motivation? Maybe you hired an experienced trainer/coach that externally motivated you to show up every day and also provide accountability in regards to your nutritional requirements. Whatever the case, most people tend to cycle from a “hardcore” program that is difficult to maintain without the external support provided by a trainer/coach to a period of inactivity/difficulty maintaining the strict regime. During this part of the cycle, most of the great results you saw disappear and you slide right back to where you were at the start of the “program” where you made an agreement and relied on your coach for motivation to grind through your day.
Every “program” works as long as sufficient motivation is there. Where that motivation comes from is a totally different part of the equation when it comes to sustainability.
I remember so well working for one of the biggest sport supplement companies on the planet and realising that each transformation I did with every athlete or regular person had one thing that increased the persons chances of success. ME. With a small percentage of the people, they actually did change completely and became internally motivated to continue. The rest relied on my energy, enthusiasm and the fact that if they did what I said, it would work. If only I had known the things I know now that only come with experience. For permanent change to happen a “program” does not work. Each person on this planet is an individual with unique personal traits and habits and subconscious drivers that cannot be addressed with a cookie cutter approach.
Real transformation begins with finding out who you are and what the real reason is that you want to change your lifestyle. Becoming internally motivated is the key.
Beginning the process of taking back your own power and resetting your programming to become less dependant on external motivation to keep you on track can feel like a daunting task at first but when you realise that there are people out there that can help you achieve this, the picture will start to brighten in your mind!
What to look for in a Coach/Trainer
WHAT?! Yes, you heard me right. If someone “guarantees” results with a specific program, be sure to ask what the exact process is and if it sustainable over time WITHOUT the coach and how long this takes on average. Ask for some references of at least 3 other people that have worked with the person and show that they have been able to maintain their results over time WITHOUT the coach and how long the process took! It really is amazing how many people I know who are trainers and/or coaches that are actually proud of clients that come back 3-4 times and lose the weight/regain their physique. What is the point? No lasting change has taken hold and more money is flushed down the fitness machine toilet. The only person that can guarantee your success is YOU!
All personal transformation starts in the mind. There should be a large component in each process you go through with your coach that is MENTAL! If your usual daily mind patterns do not change on a subconscious level, you will be destined to revert back to old behaviour as soon as you stop seeing your coach! Think of the coach as a “cycle breaker” thats stops your usual daily mental subroutines. Instead of heading to the couch after work, you have to go and see your coach…as many people are externally motivated by guilt and/or pain, this will work as long as they are spending enough to make it hurt financially and/or really like their trainer.
If you are thinking stuff like “ I really have to get there, coach drove a long way to be there for me.” That would be a thought process showing that you are being motivated by guilt rather than internal “self” motivation because you are really liking what you are doing and actually INTEGRATING it into your everyday unconscious activity profile.
Your coach should not be cheap for you! Even though this author only works as a coach part time and has a “regular” job, meaning I don’t rely on my coaching to live, I still charge an appropriate rate based on clients income because the energetic exchange has to have meaning/significance to each party. If I did “bargain basement” pricing and you make $250,000 per year what would that mean to you monetarily? Nothing! In the beginning the external motivation is important until you have gotten to the point where you have learned how to become self sufficient and have learned the basics of sustainable eating and training.
Just how long is this process going to take? The rest of your life!
Humans are a constantly adapting and changing animal. The more you immerse yourself into the personal development arena with the proper internal motivation and mental changes, this will become an enjoyable and fulfilling part of your life that you jump out of bed in the morning and embrace with open arms!
Beware the coach setting a timeline and saying “by x date you will be at this point” etc. This will be an indicator of an externally motivated “program” that will get you to your physical goal in many cases but will then be unsustainable when you drop the coaches services/motivational assistance. Eventually every person will reach a frustration threshold where they just throw up their hands and say “screw it, I can’t do this again, what is the point…I’ll Just be back where I started this time next year.”
A busy executive making 6 figures plus could definitely do 6-7 meals a day and sustain this by using a meal service. Full time coaches and trainers are living a lifestyle that makes it pretty easy for them to do this, prepping food is just part of their everyday routine and they make their own schedules. A good coach will be able to tailor a style of eating and training for you that will allow you to maintain your current routine (work etc).
Just ask yourself, would I do this every day for the rest of my life with joy if I did not have any external help? If the answer is no, then an experienced coach should be able to find practical and sustainable ways to allow you to answer yes to that question. They should also be able to teach you techniques to allow you to mentally integrate the new behaviours that you wish to become ingrained healthy rituals and not unhealthy habits that you are forcing yourself to adhere to with “will power.”
Will power only works for a short time. Those that have read some of my other articles will note that many times I go back and reiterate just what will power is: Willpower is the process of trying to use your conscious mind to overpower and change your much more powerful and complex subconscious routines. Of course, some people will say they have ultimate will power and can force themselves to not do a certain behaviour. What kind of life is that? Do you really want every part of your life to be a constant struggle/internal battle? Thats not living. Wouldn’t it be so much more enjoyable to develop the ability to upgrade your base software (subconscious mind routines) so that your daily routines become joyful and easy rituals that give you a sense of pride and satisfaction through your personal triumph over ingrained negative habits? A good coach will have the necessary tools and resources to set you on the path and help you with the initial takeoff. Then, just like momma bird kicks the babies out of the nest at a certain point the coach should be able to disconnect from you for a period of time and let you fly on your own before reconnecting and taking it to the next sustainable level.
Until next time…be well and ask yourself: “why am I doing this and do I need help to get started?”
Coach Fusion – Eric Morrison
Serving Individuals for over 20 years:)